Taming the Green-eyed Monster

I read a quote on Facebook this morning that really struck a nerve, or rather, a heart-string in me. A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity. – Robert Heinlein Wow. If I accept this as truth, I am going to have a lot […]

Check Your Motives at the Door

Impending divorce and 2 long-term (18 and 7 years) marriages that didn’t work have caused me to take a long hard look at how I keep getting into these things. Because I’m 50, not 15, I am looking a lot at myself and my part in the relationships, in hopes of not repeating the same […]

To Join or Not to Join – Bank Accounts

Disclaimer: Before I begin, you should know that I may be a bit biased due to recent events in my life, but isn’t that what blogs are all about? I have been involved in several conversations lately about whether or not a couple, whether married or in an otherwise committed relationship, should have separate or […]

The Bucket List

I am flipping through some old journals again today and found a list I made with the title, “Money is no object and time is not a factor”. It is two pages of things I wanted to be, do, or have – a bucket list. Things I wanted to accomplish before I kick the bucket. […]

Wednesday Wit and Wisdom

The house does not rest on the ground, but upon a woman. -Mexican proverb A beast does not know that he is a beast, and the nearer a man gets to being a beast, the less he knows it. -George MacDonald Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else […]

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

Women are often accused of being too emotional or being led by their emotions. When we find ourselves in an unhealthy or even an abusive relationship, we do tend to get our thoughts and emotions all tangled together. Sometimes it’s hard to know whether we are making decisions or responding out of our heads or […]

Pulling Back the Curtain on Abuse

Remember the scene from “The Wizard of Oz” where Dorothy pulls back the curtain to reveal the little old man behind the machinery that created the Great and Powerful Oz? This is the feeling I have after the last few weeks of relationship turmoil. We have addressed abuse of different kinds here before, in hopes […]

Abuse, Subtle But Deadly

I recently discovered that for several years I have been a victim of a form of psychological abuse whose name I had never heard before: Gaslighting. I am now fascinated with how prevalent this method is, but how few people are aware that it is happening, even the victims and the perpetrators. Like the proverbial […]

You Are Not Alone

I am compelled today to let you know that you are not alone. No matter what you are going through, someone you know, or someone you will meet soon, has been through it and survived. Find that person and share your situation with them. Yes, people are busy. We are pulled in a thousand directions […]

Serenity, Courage, Wisdom

I’ve heard the Serenity Prayer quoted by other people for as long as I can remember. Recently, though, I have been quoting it silently myself, and pondering what it really means. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the […]