When the Apple Doesn’t Fall Far from the Tree

Recently there has been a video circulating on Facebook about a man who shot his fifteen year old daughter’s computer (after verbally letting her know how HE felt in no uncertain terms) because of a status update in which she bashed her parents in no uncertain terms. Her language was colorful; she was obviously venting […]

Check Your Motives at the Door

Impending divorce and 2 long-term (18 and 7 years) marriages that didn’t work have caused me to take a long hard look at how I keep getting into these things. Because I’m 50, not 15, I am looking a lot at myself and my part in the relationships, in hopes of not repeating the same […]

Wednesday Wit and Wisdom

The house does not rest on the ground, but upon a woman. -Mexican proverb A beast does not know that he is a beast, and the nearer a man gets to being a beast, the less he knows it. -George MacDonald Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else […]

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

Women are often accused of being too emotional or being led by their emotions. When we find ourselves in an unhealthy or even an abusive relationship, we do tend to get our thoughts and emotions all tangled together. Sometimes it’s hard to know whether we are making decisions or responding out of our heads or […]

Pulling Back the Curtain on Abuse

Remember the scene from “The Wizard of Oz” where Dorothy pulls back the curtain to reveal the little old man behind the machinery that created the Great and Powerful Oz? This is the feeling I have after the last few weeks of relationship turmoil. We have addressed abuse of different kinds here before, in hopes […]

Abuse, Subtle But Deadly

I recently discovered that for several years I have been a victim of a form of psychological abuse whose name I had never heard before: Gaslighting. I am now fascinated with how prevalent this method is, but how few people are aware that it is happening, even the victims and the perpetrators. Like the proverbial […]

Abuse Takes Many Forms

Abuse is one of those things that everyone talks about but no one talks about. Like sexless marriages; people know it exists but prefer not to bring it into the open because… well… it is uncomfortable. And you know, we should not talk about uncomfortable things. God forbid. Abusers stay in control of their victims […]