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Jan

Guys: 5 Sexual Techniques to Make Her Wild with Desire

By marye Posted in Relationships | 2 Comments »

I wrote this when I was writing a marriage blog for b5media. The blog went under, the marriage went under but the truth of this list remains. it is invaluable information to the man who wants to please his lady.

Please enjoy.

Between being married a long time, and also being a woman, I can tell you guys that there are certain things you can do to make your wife swoon. And you want to make her swoon, right?

Of course you do.

These techniques aren’t difficult, anyone can do them and they are some of the sexiest things I can think of…and I have quite the imagination…

So. Are you ready? Are you all that is man? Wipe that drop of drool from the corner of your mouth and read on…. (more…)

Jan

Why I Want a Red Sports Car

By marye Posted in Individuality | 1 Comment »

I have decided that by the end of this year I am going to buy myself a small, two seater, convertible red sports car. I have many logical reasons for this decision.

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Jan

Winner of the Sevani Gift Certificate IS……

By marye Posted in Health and Beauty | No Comments »

Wow! you guys have been awesome! Thanks so much for being part of this giveaway. Be sure to add Autumn Tapestry to your reader now that you know we are here!

Well, the winner of the gift certificate is Jade! I will be emailing you in the next two days and you will have three days to get back to me… OR if you read this you can just email me at maryeaudet[at]gmail[dot]com.

Congrats! and be sure to check back for more giveaways, more contests, more coolness…. all the time! Because we all know -

Being invisible sucks.

Love, Marye

Jan

Fabulous Designer Looks for a Fraction of the Price

By marye Posted in Fashion | 1 Comment »

O.k.. recently I have discovered Polyvore.
On that site I can create luscious fashions that I love… and can’t afford. Not the $200.00 outfits… I mean the $2000.00 outfits – like this one.

And then I realized I could create a knock off of that look much cheaper by using the Internet. Which may be a bad thing in the long run. (more…)

Jan

Music to Divorce By…

By marye Posted in Relationships | No Comments »

When I was growing up my parents had record albums (remember those?) with Mitch Miller, Dean Martin, Frank Sinatra, and all those other romantic crooners. They would stick a stack of them on the hi-fi and we’d listen to the romantic strains of mid-century courting music for hours, especially during cocktail and dinner partiesc.

Don’t be deceived, folks, my parents battled most of the time and although they never divorced, they had a uniquely toxic relationship. One which probably should have ended in divorce rather than creating 51 years of misery for both of them.

My marriage ended in divorce just a month and two days shy of 30 years… without much fanfare.

Well, there is no reason to let divorce pass by unnoticed anymore.

Lumiere String Quartet is releasing an album entitled Music to Divorce By just in time for Valentine’s Day. Talk about a sign of the times, right? (more…)

Jan

Things I Have Learned from my Grandchildren

By Cindy Posted in Individuality, Menopause, Parenting, Relationships | No Comments »

I have three gorgeous grandchildren: A girl who is 5, and two boys, 4, and not quite 3. They are the children of my oldest daughter. Because of the nearly constant drama that still goes on between her and her ex-husband, I don’t get to spend nearly as much time with them as I would like. The time I do enjoy with them is fun and exhausting. (There are reasons that women don’t usually have babies after they turn 50.) It is amazing to watch the transformation as they have gone from helpless infants, to toddlers, to starting school. I love teaching, and try to squeeze some of it into our time together, from reading a book together, to reinforcing the concept of sharing. But I have to admit, they are teaching me some things as well.

My Grandchildren

Look at Me!

On the playground, it’s a constant cry of “Grandma, look at me!” and “Watch me! Are you watching?” They are so proud of what they are doing and want someone else to notice. They aren’t worried about being perceived as boastful or arrogant. They just want someone to watch and appreciate that they are doing something wonderful. They don’t yell at a stranger, “Hey, dude, watch me!” They get my attention, someone they love and who they know loves them. My hand-clapping and “Yay!” and “Wow!” is a simple thing that goes a long way in building the bond between us and building their confidence in themselves.
Maybe we women need to turn to someone that we know cares about us and say, “Look at me! Guess what I did today!” Sometimes just a little praise from someone is enough to get us through a tough spot or encourage us to push even harder towards a dream. You don’t have to win the Pulitzer Prize to have something to brag about. Maybe you are proud of a project you headed up at work, or you got all the bathrooms in your house clean at the same time. I’m not advocating becoming a braggart. But there is nothing wrong with sharing something you are proud of with a close friend. On the other side of this scenario, maybe a woman close to you could use some words of affirmation. You never know when your seemingly small “Atta girl” to a friend or sister may be just what she needed to get through the week. (more…)

Jan

Sevani Beauty… Organic, Vegan Skin Care that really Works!

By marye Posted in Health and Beauty | 61 Comments »

COMMENTS CLOSED…. I will announce the winner tomorrow. Thanks!

A month or so ago I was contacted by a PR firm about a new line of skin care products. Understand that I routinely have 75 or more PR emails daily for everything from sex toys to computer software – it’s tough being one of the cool kids, huh? I emailed them back and told them I don’t recommend anything without first trying it… and I thought that would be the end of it… but it wasn’t. They offered to let me try one of the products.

You have to respect a company that believes in its product enough that it will send a full size version to someone that is going to write about it. I mean, you never know what someone is going to think, you know?

I talked to Sheryl, the creator of these products about my individual issues. I am nearly 52, I am still perimenopausal, I have no thyroid, and I have super dry skin. I have just started noticing uneven skin tone on my face, have a few light wrinkles around my eyes…. You know, you are there, too. My skin just doesn’t look like it did when I was 20.

Sheryl recommended the Advanced Omega Night Repair Serum. (more…)

Jan

Check Your Motives at the Door

By Cindy Posted in Individuality, Relationships | 1 Comment »

Impending divorce and 2 long-term (18 and 7 years) marriages that didn’t work have caused me to take a long hard look at how I keep getting into these things. Because I’m 50, not 15, I am looking a lot at myself and my part in the relationships, in hopes of not repeating the same pattern ever again. While I have NO intentions of ever marrying again, I would like to have at least one healthy relationship with a man before I leave this world.

Ultimately, I ended the first marriage because of his infidelity, and the second because of abuse (of several different kinds). While it would be easy to point the finger at their blatant violations of the marriage vows and my trust, it takes two to tango. There is no excuse for cheating or abuse, under any circumstances. I’m not setting out to take the blame. That rests firmly on their heads. But I’m not doing myself any favors if I don’t examine myself, what I could have done differently and my role in what were obviously two unhealthy situations.

After some not-so-pleasant interactions with my current husband in the past few days, I am realizing that I need to look at my motives. Why do I do certain things when I really don’t want to do them? And a big factor in this relationship was fear. (more…)

Jan

Reclaim Your Power – One Step at a Time

By Cindy Posted in Career, Individuality, Relationships | 2 Comments »

At every moment, a woman makes a choice: between the state of the queen and the state of the slave girl. In out natural state, we are glorious beings. In the world of illusion, we are lost and imprisoned, slaves to our appetites and our will to false power. Our jailer is a three-headed monster: one head our past, one our insecurity, and one our popular culture

-Marianne Williamson, A Woman’s Worth

At least once a year, I read A Woman’s Worth. This is a relatively short book by Marianne Williamson that reminds me each time I read it that there is more to who I am than what I do, how I look, or how others perceive me. It always brings me back to basics, that I have the choice at any given moment to reclaim my God-given worth. He created us women with power that we seldom realize, and even less often tap into. I probably need to read it once a month!

This year, I want to spend more of my time and energy claiming my power and inspiring other women to claim theirs. I don’t mean power OVER someone else or something, I mean power TO. We need to reclaim the power that we all carry within us to influence, attract, affect, instruct, love, give, and actually determine the course of our lives. And it all boils down to choices. Every minute of every day, we do have choices. We may not admit we have a choice in some situations, but if we really step back and look, there are always choices. Now, some of the choices may be almost out of our mind’s ability to fathom, but they are still there. (more…)

Jan

Shoes Make Me Happy

By marye Posted in Individuality | 9 Comments »

One of my 2012 resolutions is to spend more time investing in Autumn Tapestry. It isn’t that I don’t value this blog – technically I think it is much more significant that RestlessChipotle. The truth of the matter is that RestlessChipotle makes me money and Autumn Tapestry does not…yet.

On Facebook I have been posting pictures of my shoes. Awesome shoes – Betsey Johnsons, Maddens – you know. The good ones. The ones that make you feel sexy and beautiful and confident.

Someone asked me why I post pictures of my shoes. Sometimes I call it the “shoes of the day” and just let everyone know what I am wearing. They asked why anyone would care.

They probably don’t – but I do. Shoes represent to me everything that has changed in my life, everything I used to be and was not, and now am again. Shoes represent my acquiescence to my father (who passed away a long time ago) that he was, as usual, right.

Shoes remind me that I am unique, special, and beautiful.

Shoes make me happy.

Here’s why. (more…)

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